I have been reading and listening to a lot of material from the Wilson family. In the past three months I have been so challenged in my thinking, so shaped in my perspective that I wanted to write it down.
There is so much truth and wisdom packed into the books written by Nancy Wilson and Rachel Jankovic, her daughter. I read a lot, specifically on the topic of motherhood and homemaking and being a wife. I have never been so intrigued as I am by the way these godly mothers look at the world. Their attitudes about their God given roles are so joyful. They seem to have an uncomplicated approach to who they are, and what they must do, and how they must do it.
First, both mom and daughter have a very realistic perspective on the challenges of motherhood. They often say that this is hard work. They don’t flower up the reality that being a full time mom takes a lot of dying to self and sacrificing your time. It takes self discipline and strength. It will leave you exhausted. They admit it, because they know all about it. But, they are always quick to say that it is good work. Not because it is easy by any means, but because it is our calling.
It is good work to give up your body so it can be used to grow and bear your children. It is good work to have very little time for yourself. It is good work to be running around all day feeding, cleaning, wiping noses, giving baths,tying shoes, giving hugs and kisses, correcting, instilling wisdom, and raising up little people for the kingdom of God. It is an abundant blessing to have our hands full. It is honorable and God gloriying.
Time and time again, through their blog posts, books and conferences, these ladies portray a mirthful attitude about the mayhem they often find themselves in. Living everyday surrounded by little people can be crazy. But they choose to laugh. They say, we are not perfect, and we don’t always get it right. We are not the star of the show, we are not center stage to the lives we are living. So we have reason laugh often. After all, they say, this is God’s story, He is making all this craziness happen. We are not the main characters, so we should not take ourselves too seriously.
With their cheerful attitudes, their call to action is always very simple. God is writing a story. His story. You are in it. So roll up your sleeves and do the good work He has given you. Do it with gratitude and contentment. Be a mom who loves her children and her role. Be a mom who finds satisfaction in tiredly collapsing into bed at the end of the day, knowing that tomorrow she will begin again, cheerfully doing the hard, good work set before her by the Lord.
It all seems so simple. You don’t have to be complicated about dealing with your exhaustion, self pity and laziness. Repent, take a nap and start over. Don’t dwell on your sin. Don’t let it grow. Ask your children for forgiveness if you have been slacking off on the discipline, or got angry with them, or been selfish with your time. And start being more consistent, more patient and giving. Like Rachel says in her book Fit to Burst,
“When we give ourselves to others, God fill us up. But not so you can suddenly retire with your little packets of joy. God gives to us that we may give. We give, He gives us more, with which to give more.”
Above all, let God fill you up, and you will never tire of giving yourself to your children and husband.
“But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will walk and not grown weary, they will walk and not be faint.”
Also here is a list of the books I have read by these ladies. They have significantly shaped me.
Also go check out their blog.